VIVAHAM

Namaskaram.Veda Ghosham is striving to educate our Sanatana Dharma following community with ancient Vedic practices which we see in altered form or long lost over time. We see in most South Indian Brahmin weddings the Bride sitting on father’s lap during kanyadanam & Mangalyadharanam. This procedure of the bride sitting on the father’s lap is no where mentioned in any Vedic Samskara sutra of any Rishi. So imagine a procedure which has not been recommended by any Rishi has found way in our vedic ritual. Let us analyse this further by looking at what exactly Rishis have recommended and how it might have got changed to the present form.

What is recommended is Vrihikata Prastara (Varakottai in Tamil).

This is a special seat prepared by bride’s father for bride and groom’s father for groom to sit during the marriage. How is this Varakottai made ? It is made by putting non-dehusked rice grains (nellu) with straw (Vaikkal) put together and tied with a new white cloth and rounded and tied together with a knot. The bride has to sit facing the east on this Varakottai while the groom will sit facing the west on his varakottai and then the ceremony happens.

Then how come this Vedic practice of the bride sitting on the lap of the father come in existence ?

Since earlier Vedic marriages used to happen at very early age where the bride was below 10 years of age in those days, if the bride cried the father to pacify her might have taken the child on the lap with the varakottai. Varakottai has disappeared, father who was sitting on the ground has now come to the chair and big adult brides are sitting on the lap of the elderly father. In fact in ancient times the father would not touch the daughter if she is an adult. Time has advanced and nowadays marriages happen at higher ages but this over a period of time this has become a shastra by itself as people are submerged in ignorance due to poor knowledge dissemination of our Vaidika karmas and their tattvas.

Veda Ghosham is the place to learn how to do Nitya ,Naimittaka, Kamya & Samskara Karmas as per Shastras and in the true Vedic way as it was practiced in ancient India.